Why Not Spread LOVE!

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Why is it so hard to love one another and create experiences that can last longer? Why do we mostly use the word love with just those we are in a love relationship with and not the ordinary people around us who also take a big part in creating our life experiences? I often ask these questions, but I continuously find it challenging to get answers. I even spoke to family and friends about my experiences, in an attempt trying to find reasons.

But why would it matter so much to use the word love in most of our conversations? How much better our world would be if we think of love before hatred? If we think about the good before the bad? If we reached out to help others before asking for help?

In an attempt to find answers, I’d like to share a model for L.O.V.E which resonates with me all the way. I’d also want to use it more often, and I’d encourage you all to try and do the same.  It would be fascinating to see how this might change the way we think, act and support one another.

 

Learn to be Kind and Vulnerable

Learning to be kind is a great act that is often overlooked while we’re busy chasing our goals and dreams. People find it quite hard to be kind most of the time.

Through varies discussions with friends and people I know, I find some believe that being kind and vulnerable are signs of weakness. I would argue against that 100% of the time. I think becoming more kind, compassionate, and vulnerable help us reach each other’s hearts which can then create moments that last. It could be that simple word you didn’t choose to say, i.e. “Thank You.” Or maybe the discussion on being mistaken which you didn’t want to talk about, so you don’t show your flaws.

On the contrary, saying thank you most of the time creates good vibes and make people want to help and support you more often. Being vulnerable and genuine enough with yourself before with others help create a powerful channel of communication between you and the world.

 

Observe the Good in Others

Finding the bad is pretty easy cause we would only look at what bothers us and point it out. Besides that, we are so good at it, aren’t we?! However, finding the good can be quite tough as it requires more time and effort to learn about the people around us, but it’s worth it. Even if the bad is more than the good, finding what’s valuable about individuals you interact with every day helps make them open to ideas and new levels of hope. It helps create those experiences that are unforgettable.

People like to be appreciated and saying one good thing about them will keep them remember it forever. You wouldn’t believe how much influence it can have, specially on those that matter the most.

 

Volunteer to Help Others in Need

Every one of us can always find something they can do to help others around them. It doesn’t have to be a monetary value that you willing to give. It could merely be quality-time to spend to listen to their stories and life experiences. It could be a ride that you willing to give to someone.

Finding those things that we have and can offer to others may change their and our lives entirely. Giving back is a one way to look at it. Simple acts of kindness can be quite influential in changing people’s minds and behaviors.

 

Enhance Your Life Quality

After all, creating quality in your life can yield the ultimate happiness, but are we taking steps towards that?

We often miss focusing on what matters the most: ourselves. We follow what people want us to believe. We pursue opinions because it’s easier than forming our own. We try and be present at every party or gathering because we think it will help keep us connected with those we like.

Moreover, and as a result, we miss giving enough time to help ourselves heal from inside before the outside. We forget to take enough time to understand our needs and wants, and “who we are and what we represent to the world.”  Moments and times like these are quite crucial in helping us reach our optimum potential and live our lives with qualities that produce good memories.

Living healthier and longer can all depend on how we live at the present moment. Are we taking enough time to spread kinds and love to those around us?  Are we continually looking for what could be valuable than what could be wrong in others?  Are we offering enough help to those we know? And last but not least, are we looking at the inside before the outside?

Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakens. — Carl Jung

Hope you enjoy the read, and I like to know in the comments below your thoughts on creating more love in the world we live in today.

Thank you for stopping by and I hope you enjoyed reading. Much love your way!

 

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Live to Love Yourself

Loving yourself sometimes can be hard to achieve. We all got life obligations, and it can get quite demanding. People who got children to take care of and work duties to fulfill. Family to spend time with and support every single day. Living through all this can be tough.  Perhaps, some daily practice may help us find some balance. After all, we got only one life.

Living and to enjoy living can sometimes be misinterpreted or interchangeably used, which they shouldn’t.  Life has cultures, religions, history, philosophy, and many more things to learn about and engage with.  Living every day with no purpose or just to get by isn’t enough and won’t last. We need to find purposeful meaning and more profound understanding of what life is about and how we can live better.

In this blog post, I like to shed light on three main areas where it may help us all find some balance and love to live every day.

Treat Yourself With Care

It’s all about learning new things, eating well, working out, sleeping more often, and surround yourself with people good for your mental health.

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Learning new tricks will keep us going. Eating well will help us stay active and healthy. Working out will give us the energy to enjoy our health with those we love the most, and most importantly support them better. Sleeping is vital to stay away from disease and keeps our bodies functioning as they should.

Enjoy Life

Travel more often and see the world. So many beautiful places that might actually make you appreciate life in many ways. It’s religion in itself. Exchange knowledge and learn about new cultures. We often get so involved into our own that we don’t want to learn about what others do or think.

 

Be Happy

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Last but definitely not the least, be happy.  Not because we have the best wealth, or great friends, or been to many places, or learned so much.  It’s entirely because we choose to become happy every single day. No matter how hard it gets, remember that other people have more struggles than what we have. Hence, appreciating the little things and celebrating small achievements can become the mantra of our living. Enjoy stuff like waking up every morning sane and healthy. Having family around is a great help. The fact that we’re able to breath good air every day is a blessing on its own.

 

Love you all! – Let me know what else you think people should consider to live better, healthier, and more importantly appreciative of every single day.  Write them all in the comment section below. Much love your way!

 

Thank you for reading and have a beautiful day! 🙂

How We Can Handle Criticism and Rejection

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In everyday life, we find people who criticize us for who we’re, how we look like, where we come from, or how we behave. In these criticisms, we sometimes face what is called “constructive criticism” and that has a lot to do with helping us find our weaknesses and looking into ways of avoiding it in future. It also helps us grow as an individual.  On the contrary, we sometimes face what is called “destructive criticism” and that is usually directed toward things we can’t change, and it’s there to hurt than to help. We often find people around us who might tell us we’re wrong, or we look bad, or we’re not as smart as they are, or maybe our hair color and the way we talk are funny, or we’re not as cool. We all have probably experienced that in different shapes and forms, and I think and after years of experience I can confidentially say it all depends on how we look at it or react back to these disapprovals of oneself, whether constructive or destructive. It can either break us into pieces or make us stronger individuals able to face the challenges of today’s world.

In the following paragraphs, I’d like to lay down for you the steps suggested by a book entitled “You Can Handle Criticism and Rejection” written for teenagers by ‘Joe Berry’ from the “Winning Skills Book” series. It highlights some methods or steps that we can take with regards to constructive and destructive criticism and rejection. Dealing with constructive criticism requires the following five steps to help us benefit from it and become better individuals.

  1. Listen carefully while we’re being criticized
  2. Thank the person who has criticized us
  3. Carefully consider the criticism we have received
  4. Decide what you need to do about the criticism
  5. Follow through with whatever we have decided to do

Dealing with destructive criticism requires the following four steps to help us get over it and not to let it take advantage of us.shutterstock_276527114

  1. Let the person who is criticizing us know that his or her destructive criticism is unacceptable
  2. Tell the person who is criticizing us how the criticism makes us feel
  3. Stop listening to the criticism
  4. Put the criticism aside

Feeling rejected can make us feel unloved or unwanted. It can quickly drop down our self-confidence. This can directly impact our performance and activity in our everyday life. It can be minimized by following the below four steps ( as described in the book ).

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  1. Remember that we are human beings and, even though we are not perfect, we are still valuable
  2. Remember, it’s the person who rejects us -not us- who has the problems
  3. Avoid being around any people who reject us
  4. Spend time with people who like and appreciate us

It all starts by taking the first step trying to make a difference. It can be tough in the beginning but trust me; it will be very rewarding by the end.

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