Why Not Spread LOVE!

sunset hands love woman

Why is it so hard to love one another and create experiences that can last longer? Why do we mostly use the word love with just those we are in a love relationship with and not the ordinary people around us who also take a big part in creating our life experiences? I often ask these questions, but I continuously find it challenging to get answers. I even spoke to family and friends about my experiences, in an attempt trying to find reasons.

But why would it matter so much to use the word love in most of our conversations? How much better our world would be if we think of love before hatred? If we think about the good before the bad? If we reached out to help others before asking for help?

In an attempt to find answers, I’d like to share a model for L.O.V.E which resonates with me all the way. I’d also want to use it more often, and I’d encourage you all to try and do the same.  It would be fascinating to see how this might change the way we think, act and support one another.

 

Learn to be Kind and Vulnerable

Learning to be kind is a great act that is often overlooked while we’re busy chasing our goals and dreams. People find it quite hard to be kind most of the time.

Through varies discussions with friends and people I know, I find some believe that being kind and vulnerable are signs of weakness. I would argue against that 100% of the time. I think becoming more kind, compassionate, and vulnerable help us reach each other’s hearts which can then create moments that last. It could be that simple word you didn’t choose to say, i.e. “Thank You.” Or maybe the discussion on being mistaken which you didn’t want to talk about, so you don’t show your flaws.

On the contrary, saying thank you most of the time creates good vibes and make people want to help and support you more often. Being vulnerable and genuine enough with yourself before with others help create a powerful channel of communication between you and the world.

 

Observe the Good in Others

Finding the bad is pretty easy cause we would only look at what bothers us and point it out. Besides that, we are so good at it, aren’t we?! However, finding the good can be quite tough as it requires more time and effort to learn about the people around us, but it’s worth it. Even if the bad is more than the good, finding what’s valuable about individuals you interact with every day helps make them open to ideas and new levels of hope. It helps create those experiences that are unforgettable.

People like to be appreciated and saying one good thing about them will keep them remember it forever. You wouldn’t believe how much influence it can have, specially on those that matter the most.

 

Volunteer to Help Others in Need

Every one of us can always find something they can do to help others around them. It doesn’t have to be a monetary value that you willing to give. It could merely be quality-time to spend to listen to their stories and life experiences. It could be a ride that you willing to give to someone.

Finding those things that we have and can offer to others may change their and our lives entirely. Giving back is a one way to look at it. Simple acts of kindness can be quite influential in changing people’s minds and behaviors.

 

Enhance Your Life Quality

After all, creating quality in your life can yield the ultimate happiness, but are we taking steps towards that?

We often miss focusing on what matters the most: ourselves. We follow what people want us to believe. We pursue opinions because it’s easier than forming our own. We try and be present at every party or gathering because we think it will help keep us connected with those we like.

Moreover, and as a result, we miss giving enough time to help ourselves heal from inside before the outside. We forget to take enough time to understand our needs and wants, and “who we are and what we represent to the world.”  Moments and times like these are quite crucial in helping us reach our optimum potential and live our lives with qualities that produce good memories.

Living healthier and longer can all depend on how we live at the present moment. Are we taking enough time to spread kinds and love to those around us?  Are we continually looking for what could be valuable than what could be wrong in others?  Are we offering enough help to those we know? And last but not least, are we looking at the inside before the outside?

Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakens. — Carl Jung

Hope you enjoy the read, and I like to know in the comments below your thoughts on creating more love in the world we live in today.

Thank you for stopping by and I hope you enjoyed reading. Much love your way!

 

Advertisements

What Technology is Good at and Why People are Better??

318947873_12028f1b66_mTechnology is good, but people are better.  Technology is good, but not good enough.  Technology is the base, but we make it happen!

You might have seen those words written before in articles, published in newspapers and magazines, or even spoken by well-known people, and today I will share with you why I think they’re very true!

Millions of people nowadays depend on technology in many different ways; they connect with friends and family, they share moments and memories, they read about news and events, and many many more than we can ever imagine, and they think and believe that all this won’t be happening without the use of technology.

The question here: how and why we need to look at it from a different angle?

Technology helps in solving problems, but that’s only a temporary solution.  You may want to apologize to a friend for an action you did, and you don’t want to speak to that person about that in a normal face-to-face conversation, so you’d typically prefer to send them a message on Facebook.  In this message, you’d tell them how sorry you’re, but let’s take a moment to evaluate.. Do you think your friend is happy now? Do you think this solves the problem? ..  I think it doesn’t.. it merely covers it up with a quick fix, but actually it’s still there somewhere and will come out right in your face someday.  A problem should only be fixed – no matter how big or small – when you decide to meet with that person and talk it thru and try harder to reach a wayout. This way and only this way will help you fix all your problems.

Through technology you can share memories and moments with family and friends, but you can never control who will see it.  Let’s capture this moment; on popular networking sites like Facebook and Twitter, you may want to share a picture or a moment with a group of friends.  You decided to upload that photo or video on the site, but you have no idea that this picture could be easily made visible to hundreds and even millions of other people without even your knowledge..!

it’s funny really when you see people sharing personal photos and videos online. They’re simply exposing themselves and their beloved ones to potential harm. They think that at some point in time they can just go ahead and remove it when they decide to do so.  In fact that’s not true, what goes online, stays online! when you delete it, it is only deleted from your page and not from others as someone could have possibly copied it into theirs!

Alright, so what we can do here?!

There are a number of ways where we can develop to reach same or even better results without fully depending on technology.  We can meet more often to connect and still keep connected.  We can make and reserve more time for those who we love the most. We can share, live, and re-live moments and memories with those who we care about.  We can make a lot of difference by keeping people always FIRST and using technology as an option when there are no other ways.

I have a friend of mine living in Dubai which later we became very close friends as brothers who was getting married in a few weeks time.  One day, he called me and said “brother, I need your help”.  I was little surprised as I had many things to worry about at that time and I didn’t expect that coming, but I answered “yes brother, tell me, what’s happening” so, he went on and explained that he needs my opinion for his marriage.  At first, I was thinking maybe we could have a Skype conversation, but then I realised its his “big day” and I should be there for him, and that’s exactly what I did. I canceled a couple of things I was going to work on in the weekend and immediately arranged for the flight and was there in Dubai the weekend after our call that day. He was surprised to see me! He thought I wasn’t going to make it. And since that day, we became very close friends as brothers indeed..

What am asking you here is simple. Be brave enough; when you’re in trouble, go meet and find a way out and don’t think technology will do it for you. If you want to share memories and moments with your friends and family, then don’t wait and go live and re-live the moment.  If you want to be connected and always be remembered, then make-up the time and don’t say “am busy!” because we all are!!